Sunday, June 24, 2012

What to Look for in a Spouse

What to Look for in A Spouse

Looking for a spouse actually begins with asking someone out.
  I think one of the big things that is almost never mentioned about dating is dating someone who is working.  I am speaking of someone who has some kind of job or business.  This applies to both men and women.  (A full time student taking difficult classes may be considered to be doing a form of work).
If someone isn't working there may be something wrong with them. Are they addicted to something that prevents their working?  Maybe he or she is too lazy or too picky or too insecure.  These are qualities that could wreak havoc in a marriage.  Maybe a person is just hoping to "freeload" off  others all the time:  the 'entitlement' mentality. Once again, a very poor way of living.  If the person is truly just having bad luck, then wait until he or she is employed again before dating.  If you are laid off you should not get into any relationships, either.  Being bored and having too much time on one's hands just leads to very poor decision making.
I think it is very important to date someone of the same faith background.  This prevents a lot of future problems as well. 
There are other things to look for as well.  Is this person moody? Unkind? Addicted to anything?  Even things as seemingly innocent as excessive computer gaming have caused great strife in a marriage.
I think the most important thing to do when considering a new relationship is to consult one's parents, who care more about you than anyone else!  Or at least consult a pastor or a very wise friend.  If your parents are opposed to the relationship, there is usually a good reason.
I think there is nothing like good old-fashioned hard work to prepare someone for marriage!